Wendy Behary
Psychotherapist who trained with Jeffrey Young from 1989 and founded The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and the Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC. Wrote Disarming the Narcissist.
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Where they publish
disarmingthenarcissist.comSite The site for her book and her work on narcissism and schema therapy.
Her book Disarming the Narcissist, the About page in her own name, and her training work. She is one of the few people who write about treating narcissism rather than only about surviving it.
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Link verified 3 Sept 2026.
Beliefs
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Narcissists can change meaningfully in therapy, though nobody changes completely, and most of the work is persisting with empathic confrontation past the first rebuff.
In 30+ years of working with narcissistic men mostly - yes, it is possible for people to change. And even narcissists can change. Now, I don't really believe anyone changes completely, but it is possible to get meaningful change.
ERP 226: How To Understand And Deal With a Narcissist, an Interview With Wendy Behary [Transcript] Said 30 Jul 2020
Narcissism runs along a spectrum rather than being a category, and schema therapy treats it by working back to what early life embedded.
the approach that I use is called Schema Therapy, and Schema Therapy is designed to work with very complex personality types, personality disorders, and even those that are happening along a spectrum
ERP 226: How To Understand And Deal With a Narcissist, an Interview With Wendy Behary [Transcript] Said 30 Jul 2020
Nobody living with a narcissist should feel obliged to become their therapist.
And no one should feel burdened to become the therapist of the narcissist in their life. It's not your responsibility as a partner, as a child of a narcissist, or even a friend.
ERP 226: How To Understand And Deal With a Narcissist, an Interview With Wendy Behary [Transcript] Said 30 Jul 2020
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