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Wendy Behary
Psychotherapist who trained with Jeffrey Young from 1989 and founded The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and the Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC. Wrote Disarming the Narcissist.
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Narcissists can change meaningfully in therapy, though nobody changes completely, and most of the work is persisting with empathic confrontation past the first rebuff.
In 30+ years of working with narcissistic men mostly - yes, it is possible for people to change. And even narcissists can change. Now, I don't really believe anyone changes completely, but it is possible to get meaningful change.
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And no one should feel burdened to become the therapist of the narcissist in their life. It's not your responsibility as a partner, as a child of a narcissist, or even a friend.
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the approach that I use is called Schema Therapy, and Schema Therapy is designed to work with very complex personality types, personality disorders, and even those that are happening along a spectrum
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In 30+ years of working with narcissistic men mostly - yes, it is possible for people to change. And even narcissists can change. Now, I don't really believe anyone changes completely, but it is possible to get meaningful change.
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Narcissists can change meaningfully in therapy, though nobody changes completely, and most of the work is persisting with empathic confrontation past the first rebuff.
In 30+ years of working with narcissistic men mostly - yes, it is possible for people to change. And even narcissists can change. Now, I don't really believe anyone changes completely, but it is possible to get meaningful change.
ERP 226: How To Understand And Deal With a Narcissist, an Interview With Wendy Behary [Transcript] Said 30 Jul 2020
Narcissism runs along a spectrum rather than being a category, and schema therapy treats it by working back to what early life embedded.
the approach that I use is called Schema Therapy, and Schema Therapy is designed to work with very complex personality types, personality disorders, and even those that are happening along a spectrum
ERP 226: How To Understand And Deal With a Narcissist, an Interview With Wendy Behary [Transcript] Said 30 Jul 2020
Nobody living with a narcissist should feel obliged to become their therapist.
And no one should feel burdened to become the therapist of the narcissist in their life. It's not your responsibility as a partner, as a child of a narcissist, or even a friend.
ERP 226: How To Understand And Deal With a Narcissist, an Interview With Wendy Behary [Transcript] Said 30 Jul 2020
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