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13 August

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From one piece Feeling Lonely in a Relationship? Why It Happens and How to Reconnect 3 beliefs, in the piece's order there

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Suppressed hurt hardens into resentment that erodes generosity, and what looks like acceptance can actually be resignation.

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It hardens into resentment, and resentment dries up generosity. What looks like acceptance may actually be resignation.

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A pursue-withdraw dynamic between partners is self-sustaining and does not require either person to be at fault.

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The important thing to know is that the cycle is self-feeding: it does not need anyone to be at fault to keep going.

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A person cannot both protect themselves emotionally and build intimacy with a partner at the same moment.

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You can protect yourself or you can work on being intimate, but you can't do both at the same time.

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11 August 2023

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From one piece The Myth of the Individual 2 beliefs · terryreal.com

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Opening a fixed relational pattern takes two things: the implicit made explicit, and the person's own recoil from what they see.

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Neurobiologists tell us that it takes two things to unlock and open up a neural pathway. The first is that the implicit must be made explicit. Sometimes you need help seeing what you don't see. But you must be open to the feedback. Second, there must be some sort of recoil, a sense of discrepancy, of "Oh no, I'm not sure I really want to keep doing that."

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Character is not fixed: therapy works because habitual neural pathways can re-form, sometimes within minutes.

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In my practice, I have seen that opening neural pathways can lead to profound change, to brand-new traits and behavior, sometimes in a matter of minutes.

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