Sue Johnson
Clinical psychologist and the developer of emotionally focused therapy (EFT) for couples; author of Hold Me Tight.
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Couples therapy is an amazing arena for change, because a changed relationship changes both partners.
What you have in couples therapy is an amazing arena for change.
podcasts.apple.comSaid 30 Apr 2024This on korrents
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Romantic love is an attachment bond, much like the bond with a parent.
romantic love is an attachment bond, much like we have with parents
podcasts.apple.comSaid 15 May 2023This on korrents
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Couples therapy is an amazing arena for change, because a changed relationship changes both partners.
What you have in couples therapy is an amazing arena for change.
208: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Dr. Sue Johnson (The Couples Therapist Couch) Said 30 Apr 2024
When a relationship changes, the partners start to change each other through safe connection, which is where people grow.
when you change a relationship, the partners start to change each other because they start to create a safe connection, and that's the natural place people grow
208: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Dr. Sue Johnson (The Couples Therapist Couch) Said 30 Apr 2024
People get depressed when they face their vulnerability alone.
We get depressed when we're facing our vulnerability alone
208: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Dr. Sue Johnson (The Couples Therapist Couch) Said 30 Apr 2024
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EFT creates a corrective emotional experience of accessibility and responsiveness.
we create a corrective emotional experience of accessibility and responsiveness where people can talk about their basic fears and get support from the other person and their basic needs
208: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Dr. Sue Johnson (The Couples Therapist Couch) Said 30 Apr 2024
Romantic love is an attachment bond, much like the bond with a parent.
romantic love is an attachment bond, much like we have with parents
Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy with Dr. Sue Johnson (Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson) Said 15 May 2023
The need to connect with another human being is the biggest human instinct.
The need to connect with another human being is the biggest instinct.
Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy with Dr. Sue Johnson (Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson) Said 15 May 2023
Emotional isolation is traumatizing in itself.
emotional isolation is inherently traumatizing in itself
Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy with Dr. Sue Johnson (Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson) Said 15 May 2023
Couples do not need to be taught skills; what changes them is a bonding conversation.
The missing puzzle piece is you don't have to teach skills.
Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy with Dr. Sue Johnson (Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson) Said 15 May 2023
In a distressed couple the dance is the problem, not the people.
And it's the dance that's the problem. They're just human beings.
Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy with Dr. Sue Johnson (Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson) Said 15 May 2023
A couples therapist starts by validating where people are, not by asking them to be vulnerable.
we don't start with saying to people, please be vulnerable. We start with validating where they are.
Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy with Dr. Sue Johnson (Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson) Said 15 May 2023
What looks like depression is often heartbreak.
She's not depressed. She's heartbroken.
Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy with Dr. Sue Johnson (Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson) Said 15 May 2023
The therapist evokes the emotion and regulates it at the same time.
We've evoked it and we regulate it at the same time.
Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy with Dr. Sue Johnson (Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson) Said 15 May 2023
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