Mari Andrew
Writer and illustrator, author of Am I There Yet? and Out of the Blue; writes the newsletter Out of the Blue on grief, joy and everyday attention.
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What they believe
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Social media currently rewards stories of pain and suffering over stories of joy.
In the current social media zeitgeist, pain is regularly rewarded over joy.
mariandrew.substack.comSaid 23 Jul 2026This on korrents
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Disappointment is the gap between expectation and reality.
I am fully aware that disappointment is the gap between expectation and reality
mariandrew.substack.comSaid 5 Jun 2026This on korrents
The bold line is korrents’ wording; the quote is theirs. These 2: what they wrote before what they said aloud, one per source, newest first.
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27 September
23 July
From one piece Cozy Summer 3 beliefs · mariandrew.substack.com
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Adult people are comfortable when their expectations match reality, which is not how the child world works.
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When two truths conflict and both are hard to accept, people resolve the tension by discarding one of them.Their words
Reality hands us two truths at once, and when we can't stomach both, we eliminate one.
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In the current social media zeitgeist, pain is regularly rewarded over joy.
5 June
From one piece How to score your life 2 beliefs · mariandrew.substack.com
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One of the many problems with being human is that we're Completion Freaks.
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I am fully aware that disappointment is the gap between expectation and reality
18 May
From one piece Everything I Loved in Spring 2 beliefs · mariandrew.substack.com
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Every act of desire involves giving something up, and we don't usually call it sacrifice because we're too busy being delighted by what we picked!
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Growth is nonlinear and full of contradictions.Their words
Spring in all her manic pixie unpredictability and dreamgirl flakiness models for us that growth is nonlinear and full of contradictions.
5 May
From one piece How to make friends 3 beliefs · mariandrew.substack.com
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A person does not need a friend group to find people for everyday activities and errands.Their words
That said! I don't believe you need a group for the activity partners you're looking for. I don't even think you need friends per se for these day-to-day adventures.
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Truly perfect friends do not exist.Their words
Perfect friends are not possible. Instead of wondering how to change them, perhaps try being just a tiny bit more patient, and see how they might end up surprising you.
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Making friends does not get harder after your 30s.Their words
You see, I don't think making friends is hard after your 30s. And, I made several of my best friends after they got divorced.
1 May
From one piece Take your time 2 beliefs · mariandrew.substack.com
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Human life is paradoxically both very long and very short, and there is more time available than people make use of.Their words
The paradox of human life is that it's so long and so short; we have so much time and we could use so much more of it.
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Pursuing efficiency and maximizing productivity too aggressively causes things to go wrong.Their words
Efficiency is what TV remote controls are good at, but whenever people try to maximize their productivity in the speediest way, things start to go south.
23 April
From one piece On Monetization 2 beliefs · mariandrew.substack.com
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Putting a price on creative expression makes it suffer, while giving it away freely lets it thrive.Their words
I know my work will suffer if I put a price on creative expression that is as sloppy and homespun as spaghetti, and I know it will thrive if I give it generously and get messy while making it.
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the economy now asks every creative person to essentially become a small media company, which is a very specific skill set that has nothing to do with why most of us started making things in the first place
6 April
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I no longer think the problem is individual behavior so much as structural failure: a world with so little margin, tenderness, or infrastructural mercy that people are forced into constant friction.
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Korrents What they believe 20 beliefs — each backed by an exact quote.
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Social media currently rewards stories of pain and suffering over stories of joy.
In the current social media zeitgeist, pain is regularly rewarded over joy.
Cozy Summer Said 23 Jul 2026
When two truths conflict and both are hard to accept, people resolve the tension by discarding one of them.
Reality hands us two truths at once, and when we can't stomach both, we eliminate one.
Cozy Summer Said 23 Jul 2026
Adults need their expectations to match reality to feel comfortable, unlike children.
Adult people are comfortable when their expectations match reality, which is not how the child world works.
Cozy Summer Said 23 Jul 2026
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Disappointment is the gap between expectation and reality.
I am fully aware that disappointment is the gap between expectation and reality
How to score your life Said 5 Jun 2026
Human beings are inherently "completion freaks," always needing to know whether something is finished or if there is more to do.
One of the many problems with being human is that we're Completion Freaks.
How to score your life Said 5 Jun 2026
Growth is nonlinear and full of contradictions.
Spring in all her manic pixie unpredictability and dreamgirl flakiness models for us that growth is nonlinear and full of contradictions.
Everything I Loved in Spring Said 18 May 2026
Every act of desire involves giving something up, though it rarely feels like sacrifice when you're happy with what you chose.
Every act of desire involves giving something up, and we don't usually call it sacrifice because we're too busy being delighted by what we picked!
Everything I Loved in Spring Said 18 May 2026
Making friends does not get harder after your 30s.
You see, I don't think making friends is hard after your 30s. And, I made several of my best friends after they got divorced.
How to make friends Said 5 May 2026
Truly perfect friends do not exist.
Perfect friends are not possible. Instead of wondering how to change them, perhaps try being just a tiny bit more patient, and see how they might end up surprising you.
How to make friends Said 5 May 2026
A person does not need a friend group to find people for everyday activities and errands.
That said! I don't believe you need a group for the activity partners you're looking for. I don't even think you need friends per se for these day-to-day adventures.
How to make friends Said 5 May 2026
Pursuing efficiency and maximizing productivity too aggressively causes things to go wrong.
Efficiency is what TV remote controls are good at, but whenever people try to maximize their productivity in the speediest way, things start to go south.
Take your time Said 1 May 2026
Human life is paradoxically both very long and very short, and there is more time available than people make use of.
The paradox of human life is that it's so long and so short; we have so much time and we could use so much more of it.
Take your time Said 1 May 2026
The modern economy pressures nearly every kind of creative or professional worker to also become a small media company, a skill unrelated to their original craft.
the economy now asks every creative person to essentially become a small media company, which is a very specific skill set that has nothing to do with why most of us started making things in the first place
On Monetization Said 23 Apr 2026
Putting a price on creative expression makes it suffer, while giving it away freely lets it thrive.
I know my work will suffer if I put a price on creative expression that is as sloppy and homespun as spaghetti, and I know it will thrive if I give it generously and get messy while making it.
On Monetization Said 23 Apr 2026
Difficulties parents and disabled people face navigating public infrastructure stem from structural failures, not individual behavior.
I no longer think the problem is individual behavior so much as structural failure: a world with so little margin, tenderness, or infrastructural mercy that people are forced into constant friction.
Surprises of Motherhood Said 6 Apr 2026
In situations that bring people closer to their animal nature, such as illness or childbirth, they tend to behave more instinctively and impolitely.
Whenever humans experience situations where we are closer to our animal selves than usual (needing to use the bathroom, having periods, giving birth, raising a baby, being sick), we usually behave as animals do: instinctively, urgently, and impolitely.
Surprises of Motherhood Said 6 Apr 2026
Having children is not a niche or selfish lifestyle choice, and people without children shouldn't bear the costs of a structure that fails everyone.
I don't think the continuation of the species is some niche, selfish lifestyle choice, nor do I think people without children should have to constantly absorb the consequences of a structure that isn't helping either of us.
Surprises of Motherhood Said 6 Apr 2026
A true calling or vocation never involves constant discomfort or pain.
But, your 'calling' will never involve constant discomfort. If you are passionate about a political issue but you hate crowds, you do not have to go to protests.
How to find your passion in life Said 11 Mar 2026
A skill goes to waste only when insecurity or outside pressure stops someone from pursuing it, not merely by going unused.
It only goes to waste if you would find joy and meaning in using it, but you don't because of insecurity or outside voices.
How to find your passion in life Said 11 Mar 2026
How much the economy pays for a given talent at a given time is arbitrary and shouldn't determine which of your gifts you value.
Our dumb economy might prize a certain talent more during a certain period of time or place, but that doesn't mean you should.
How to find your passion in life Said 11 Mar 2026
Beliefs others hold too
Human life is paradoxically both very long and very short, and there is more time available than people make use of. 2 hold this
The paradox of human life is that it's so long and so short; we have so much time and we could use so much more of it.
Take your time Said 1 May 2026
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Loved Pop Pantheon
Here are some favorites I listen to consistently: Pop Pantheon (music)
mariandrew.substack.com 28 Nov 2025
Loved Francie
Fancy in Brooklyn: Francie is my favorite restaurant in Brooklyn (actually, all of NYC). I also die for Celestine, where I got married!
mariandrew.substack.com 28 Nov 2025
Loved Radiooooo
Not a podcast, but Radiooooo is a world map where you can click on countries and pick a decade to listen to popular music from that place and time. What will they think of next!
mariandrew.substack.com 28 Nov 2025
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Loved Merlin Suit
Merlin Suit: I dunno what Merlin knows about babies but this sleeping suit is a MIRACLE.
mariandrew.substack.com 28 Nov 2025
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Loved Lovevery
Lovevery Kits are just the ultimate. We have this play gym (as does everybody?!) which works with the Montessori toys they make. They have kits for different age groups from newborn through 51 months (I cannot even begin to calculate how old that is) and they have taught me so much about baby development!
mariandrew.substack.com 28 Nov 2025
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Loved The Cobra and the Canary
The Cobra and the Canary: This is such a WEIRD scent that it almost smells wrong, like there's no way that it can actually smell good, and yet it smells SO GOOD.
mariandrew.substack.com 28 Nov 2025
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Loved Diptyque Orphéon
Diptyque Orphéon: This scent makes me feel a tad mysterious, which is a joke if you know that I am the least mysterious person on earth
mariandrew.substack.com 28 Nov 2025
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Loved Kandilli Perfume Oil
Kandilli Perfume Oil: I sampled this in a store and couldn't stop smelling my arm for the rest of the day, so I had to go back and buy it!
mariandrew.substack.com 28 Nov 2025
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Liked Tower 28
Tower 28 was designed with aging in mind (oy vey) so all the products are super light and won't add more wrinkles to your wrinkles.
mariandrew.substack.com 28 Nov 2025
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Loved Charlotte Tilbury
My two favorite brands are Charlotte Tilbury for specialness and Tower 28 for everydayness. Charlotte Tilbury is dreamy, feminine, and princess-y, with lots of pinks and browns (wore her for my wedding!).
mariandrew.substack.com 28 Nov 2025
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Loved Moosewood
All the Moosewood cookbooks are so delightful. They are the book form of my favorite genre of friends' moms growing up: an aging hippie who's been shopping at the same patchouli-scented health food store since the '70s
mariandrew.substack.com 28 Nov 2025
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Loved The Everlasting Meal
The Everlasting Meal taught me how to cook with instinct, which is my most cherished skill!
mariandrew.substack.com 28 Nov 2025
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Loved Rope Storage Baskets
Rope Storage Baskets: I use these EVERRRYYYWHERE in my apartment. I can't stand clutter (yet I have so much of it!!), plus I have lots of art supplies and journals and books and newspapers and crap lying around all the time
mariandrew.substack.com 28 Nov 2025
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Loved Wooden Bath Mat
Despite her McPersnickety ways, I had to admit that the wooden bath mat was magical. It dried within minutes and felt a lot less gross on my feet than a glorified carpet collecting everybody's foot germs.
mariandrew.substack.com 28 Nov 2025
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Loved Happy Feet Socks
I've been using yoga toes daily for years, but these socks are a much comfier and cuter alternative for soothing feet, improving alignment, and feeling like a cool gecko as you walk around the house.
mariandrew.substack.com 28 Nov 2025
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Loved The Dutchess
The Dutchess Oven: What can I say? She sits on a shelf (or stove!) like a piece of candy-colored art, and cleans like a dream. What more could you want in a dutch oven?
mariandrew.substack.com 28 Nov 2025
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Loved Theragun
I gave a Theragun to my husband for Christmas, and it was the best gift I've ever given and the single greatest purchase of my life.
mariandrew.substack.com 28 Nov 2025
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Loved Pimsleur
For language acquisition, Pimsleur is by far my favorite online/app program. (Even Mr. Mari, who gathers no joy from learning languages, was addicted to it for a while!)
mariandrew.substack.com 28 Nov 2025
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Newsletter Out of the Blue Her newsletter of essays, lists and illustrations.
Recent
- How to play small 27 Sept 2026 New decade, little me
- Cozy Summer 23 Jul 2026 Full of glories
- How to score your life 5 Jun 2026 On explorer mindset
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- Everything I Loved in Spring 18 May 2026 `Happy clothes, satisfying cupboards, and percussive books
- How to make friends 5 May 2026 "I'm just here to make friends"
- Take your time 1 May 2026 Anything worth doing is worth doing slowly
- On Monetization 23 Apr 2026 No more paywall
- Surprises of Motherhood 6 Apr 2026 One woman's quest for a subway elevator
- How to find your passion in life 11 Mar 2026 A guide to your gifts
- How to expand your world 15 Feb 2026 An American Christian and a British atheist walk into a philosophy podcast
- Everything I Loved in January 6 Feb 2026 Hi from the in-between
- Mari's Movie Club #3: Groundhog Day 24 Jan 2026 It's bizarre, it's beautiful, it's life.
- From the Archive: Great Love 14 Jan 2026 A city as my first committed relationship
- Relax and Write in Brooklyn...in February! 13 Jan 2026 See you next month?
- Everything I Loved in December 4 Jan 2026 Flawed art, winter uniforms, and investigating the dark
- Mari's Move Club #2: The Family Stone 24 Dec 2025 We wish you a [any emotion here] Christmas!
- A crowd-haters guide to NYC 20 Dec 2025 You have no reason to see the tree!
- Do I belong here? 17 Dec 2025 Grappling with Membership Culture
- How to keep a resolution 9 Dec 2025 The secret is...be yourself
- Relax and Write in Brooklyn 1 Dec 2025 A Day of Creativity & Connection to kick off 2026!
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