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From one piece Masochism: When Suffering Becomes a Way of Life 3 beliefs, in the piece's order there
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Believing suffering is a claim ticket for compensation becomes a powerful resistance to psychological change.Their words
The fantasy that suffering is a claim ticket becomes a powerful resistance to psychological change.
Masochism: When Suffering Becomes a Way of Lifejonathanshedler.substack.com
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This expectation is a vestige of early childhood and the small child's experience of their parents as omnipotent-able to provide whatever is needed to make everything all better.
Masochism: When Suffering Becomes a Way of Lifejonathanshedler.substack.com
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Victim entitlement is the unconscious belief that suffering and victimhood earn a person special compensation.Their words
It is the unconscious conviction that one is entitled to special compensation in proportion to suffering and victimhood.
Masochism: When Suffering Becomes a Way of Lifejonathanshedler.substack.com
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But we can measure psychological health by how closely a person approximates this hypothetical ideal.
23 Markers of Psychological Healthjonathanshedler.substack.com
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From one piece When the Therapy Relationship Is the Problem 2 beliefs, in the piece's order there
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Psychotherapy cannot help if the participants cannot work together.
When the Therapy Relationship Is the Problemjonathanshedler.substack.com
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It is true that a good therapeutic alliance predicts good outcome. But anyone can develop an alliance with someone who can already form good relationships. Measures of the therapeutic alliance may simply be a proxy for the patient's preexisting capacity for healthy relationships.
When the Therapy Relationship Is the Problemjonathanshedler.substack.com
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When patients don't get the help they need, they don't come away thinking, I didn't get good treatment. They come away thinking, I am too broken to be helped. They leave more hopeless and demoralized than when they came. That is harm.
When Compromised Care Becomes "Best Practice"jonathanshedler.substack.com
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The phrase "your feelings are valid" does not invite curiosity or deeper self-understanding, which is the point of psychotherapy. It is the mirror image of "stop whining and get a grip." One sounds warm and one sounds harsh, but neither deepens self-awareness.
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